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MOVE THROUGH GRIEF AND TRAUMA
TO A PLACE OF PEACE AND HOPE
How to start moving through grief and trauma so that you can step into your new normal with a sense of peace and hope
A traumatic event can leave you full of pain, fear, anger and uncertainty. It is often life-changing and the aftermath has you feeling vulnerable and out of control. You feel anxious and stuck in a cycle of intense emotions. You know that you can't carry on this way forever. You are ready to do whatever it takes to move past your trauma and reclaim your life.
You want to:
Recover some sense of normality
Regain a sense of control
Rid yourself of the negative feelings and effects of the trauma
Live with a sense of peace and hope for the future
YOUR TRAUMA HAS IMOBALISED YOU
You get to choose how your traumatic event shapes you and what you do with your life.
Did you even know that you had a choice?
You know that in order to be free of the negative effects of your trauma, you need to process it properly and take specific actions to help yourself heal. Just carrying on the way you are isn't working.
That is why you are ready to make transforming your trauma a top priority.
You are brave for taking this step, but know that it is absolutely necessary for your healing - body, mind and soul.
Research has shown that seeking out help for working through a trauma can:
result in improved overall mental health
reduce the intensity of your reactions to the trauma
result in improved physical health
give you a sense of control
help you to integrate your trauma experience
reduce your chances of developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Taking small, consistent steps to work through your trauma forms the foundation of your healing process, but you are unsure of what you actually need to do.
The initial shock may have you feeling like you are in a brain fog and just can't kickstart your thinking;
You may feel strong emotional reactions to situations that never made you react before - and not in a good way.
Maybe the fear, anger and anxiety are taking over your life and affecting the way in which you live it.
Maybe your strong emotions leave you feeling worn out or even more vulnerable and out of control.
Maybe you feel powerless and helpless to do anything to help yourself heal.
Trauma often shows up both physically and emotionally and the effects of a trauma can influence every aspect of your life.
Some symptoms you may experience after a traumatic event include:
Trouble falling asleep or waking during the night and unable to go back to sleep
Very jumpy, you startle at the slightest sound
Feeling detached from other people
Loss of interest in life in general
Struggling to remember things and concentrate
Feeling numb and unable to express any emotion
Feeling an overwhelming sense of guilt
Loss of appetite
Feeling nauseous or off colour
Your traumatic event has changed your life forever, and that can be pretty scary. Forced change can be incredibly hard to manage and can make you feel frustrated and angry.
Living in fear, a state of overwhelm and not knowing what to do next is draining and frightening.
You wish someone could just make it all go away and put your life back to normal. That person would be you. Working through a step-by-step guide to healing trauma.
You are looking for someone to lead you through the process of releasing your trauma; to support you and help you to work through your questions like:
How can my life possibly go back to normal?
How do I work through these huge, consuming emotions?
But probably most importantly
Will I be the same person at the end of it all?
The answer is, no, you won't be the same person at the end of it all.
You will be stronger, braver and more courageous. You will be resilient and able to carve out your new sense of normal. You will be able to step into your future with a sense of peace and hope.
And while your traumatic event will always remain a part of you, a part of your history, it doesn't need to consume you and negatively impact the way you feel and the way you live your life. You get to choose exactly how it shapes you and your life.
You need to heal. You need to let go. You need to re-define yourself in the aftermath.
How you would feel if you knew for certain that it was 100% possible for you to release the negative effects and emotions of your trauma?
Imagine what your life would be like without the fear. Without the anxiety and continual worry. Imagine how you would feel if you slept better, could concentrate better and get rid of all those negative emotions and thoughts weighing you down.
You would have a feeling of freedom.
You would feel like a weight has been lifted.
You would feel a sense of control and calm return.
And how much better would your life be once your trauma was processed and put behind you? How much happier would you be? How much more confident and connected would you feel? How much more able would you be to truly enjoy your life?
Traumatic events that are not properly processed can lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Unfortunately, that means that as time goes on, your unresolved trauma will keep popping up as soon as something comes up (an event, another person’s story, etc.) that reminds you of your trauma. You will find yourself triggered into reliving your nightmare and feeling all those strong emotions again and again until you resolve it properly.
You DON'T have to live this way!
Based on my own healing journey from traumatic experiences, I feel I have a calling, need and passion to help others who have been affected by trauma.
Some 20 years ago, at 21 years old, I found myself standing on the side of the road, staring at the wreck of my boyfriend's car. He had passed away and I had to break the news to his family. It was, without a doubt, one of the hardest calls I've had to make.
There was so much shock and trauma and grief, it was hard to wade through it. I really struggled and lost interest in life. My healing happened in fits and starts, but I kept on taking small steps towards rebuilding my life.
A trauma like that changes you, shapes you. And I was no different.
And while I had my moments of wanting to lie down and give up, I was mostly determined to move through the grief, and to do something constructive with it. I knew, within that first year after his death, that, without a shadow of a doubt, I wanted to help people who had experienced some kind of trauma to heal. I needed to do something with my grief, something positive had to come from my experience.
I was young and arrogant enough to think that I had already had my experience with losing someone I loved traumatically and that traumatic death wouldn't touch my life again. I was wrong.
In 2017 my newborn son passed away from a virus-related cardiac event. It rocked my world, shattered it, turned it on its head and shook it up. The trauma, the grief, the pain brought me to my knees. The single most difficult phone call I had to make was to my husband, who was at an airport in Malaysia waiting to fly home, and tell him that our baby boy was gone.
Both of these devastating losses have influenced who and what I have become. And while I will forever grieve the loss of my baby boy, I have also made the choice to move forward and turn my experience into a healing guide for others.
All trauma is different in nature, but many of the symptoms and side effects are similar. I have experienced, studied and trained and coached and counselled and I am absolutely certain that you can transcend your trauma - no matter what it is - with the right framework and mindset.
And that is what I am here to help you with. You don't get to choose what happens to you, but you do get to choose how you deal with it.
Choose to TRANSCEND your TRAUMA
I have developed the FROM TRAUMA TO TRANSFORMATION program to specifically help you work through your traumatic event in an easy to follow, step-by-step process with clear, actionable steps to help move you forward into your new normal and discover peace and hope for the future.
The FROM TRAUMA TO TRANSFORMATION program will help you to:
Work through your traumatic event
Start working on processing the physical and emotional response to trauma and/or grief
Learn how to cope with the reactions you experience following a traumatic event
Tap into your inner power and start to take back control of your life
On completing this program, you will:
Have a toolkit of coping strategies to manage your reactions to a traumatic event
Have started to work through any emotional and physical challenges you experience as a result of the trauma
Have started to establish your new sense of normal
Have a feeling of being more in control and less vulnerable
Have a sense of peace and hope for the future
WHAT YOU GET:
1. A Trauma Assessment & Questionnaire – in order to ensure you get the most out of our coaching session, you will need to complete a questionnaire around your traumatic event and answer a few simple questions so that we can focus on the key areas to get you moving forward with your new life.
2. Coaching for Cure - a 90-minute coaching session to help rid you of those strong emotions, work through your trauma and bring a sense of control and calm to your life. The coaching session will also help you regain your power and take back control of your life so that you can establish your new normal.
3. A Trauma Toolkit – after our session I will email you a personalised toolkit with some tips and exercises that will help you to manage the effects that the trauma has on your life.
4. A Progress Check-in – we will schedule a 30- minute follow up coaching session for 10 days after your initial coaching appointment to discuss your progress and navigate any roadblocks or challenges that have crept up so that you can step forward into your new normal with confidence!
Take charge and make a meaningful change to the way you live your life, today!
Are you ready to redefine and let go of your traumatic experience and step forward into your new normal?
SIGN UP NOW
I am honoured to be a part of your healing journey! Follow the steps below to get going:
Find your courage and stake your claim to a life free from your trauma.
Make the financial commitment to moving From Trauma to Transformation by paying for the program below
As soon as your payment is received, you will be sent the Trauma Assessment questionnaire to complete and return to me, as well as booking instructions for your 90-minute coaching session.
If you have any questions or would like to connect to see if we are a good coaching fit, I would be happy to chat to you. Please email me at email@example.com
Join my Facebook community
I have created a Facebook community to serve as an online space to help you transform the way you experience life in the aftermath of a traumatic event.
I believe that there are so many people who are walking around with the effects of a past trauma hanging over them, or who have recently experienced a traumatic event and the effects of this are impacting their ability to live their life well.
I decided to create a From Trauma to Transformation Facebook community to support those who have experienced a trauma.
Science has shown that being a part of a community where you feel supported, understood and lovingly accepted has a profound impact on healing.
I want this to be a community where we hold each other up, where we help and encourage each other to release some of these trauma effects and walk through and face the hard parts together.
We all have insight and valuable input to share based on our own journeys, and these nuggets of information can serve as a beacon of light to others.
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